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If you keep showing up, you’ll almost certainly break through – but probably not in the way you expected or intended. You need enough persistence to keep working and enough flexibility to enjoy success when it comes in a different form than you imagined. -James Clear, Author of Atomic Habits

“Persistence” is continuous effort in the face of “obstacles”.  A perfect example is my morning drive to work. I will persist through traffic jams, accidents, and poor weather conditions to get to work. I will not be deterred. And, I have 100% success rate of arriving at my destination. Why? Because never have I ever thought about not showing up to work.

You probably have similar examples in your own life. Times when you showed up and continued to put in the effort in the face of perceived “obstacles”.

And, you will probably agree, that persistence was not only necessary, but it allowed you to get to your “destination”.

Fast forward to today, and your current health/mobility challenges, it would make sense that persistence is a valuable quality.

But Houston, we have a little problem. If you feel “frustrated” more often than not, “persistence” could be the problem.

You see, persistence is necessary and good. Perseverance, a close cousin, is also extremely valuable. Endure setbacks. Be adaptable and pivot when “problems” arise. Maintain a steadfast resolve to achieve your goal. All qualities of a “successful” person.

But at what cost? And, what if I told you there is a chance you won’t achieve your goal? Would the persisting have been worth it? Would the “overwhelm”, “frustration”, and potential “disappointment” have been worth it?

I don’t present this question to discourage you in any way from continuing on the path. And I am not saying your won’t achieve your goal. But what if…..

If you get a little sinking feeling in your heart, there is a solution that James Clear perfectly articulates.

Persist, yes. This will keep you moving toward your goal when the going gets tough.

And

Maintain an open-mind regarding what success looks like.

Although uncomfortable, could you be content walking with a slight “limp”?

Could you imagine a future you that is more active, eating “healthier”, and feeling more energy and not be a size 4?

Could you imagine a future of going to theme parks and traveling to see your family if it meant you occasionally needed to use a wheelchair?

Could you feel a sense of accomplishment if you walked a 5k instead of jogging a half marathon?

Could you be content living in a lower income neighborhood, driving a 10 year old car, and wearing “off brand” clothes for the rest of your life?

Persistence is necessary. And there is something that feels really good about knowing you persevered through obstacles and set backs to achieve your goals.

But equally important, is finding moments of joy throughout the process.

And maybe, just maybe, the outcome God has in store for you is way better than you could have ever imagined.

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