If you keep showing up, you’ll almost certainly break through – but probably not in the way you expected or intended. You need enough persistence to keep working and enough flexibility to enjoy success when it comes in a different form than you imagined. -James Clear, Author of Atomic Habits
“Persistence” is continuous effort in the face of “obstacles”. A perfect example is my morning drive to work. I will persist through traffic jams, accidents, and poor weather conditions to get to work. I will not be deterred. And, I have 100% success rate of arriving at my destination. Why? Because never have I ever thought about not showing up to work.
You probably have similar examples in your own life. Times when you showed up and continued to put in the effort in the face of perceived “obstacles”.
And, you will probably agree, that persistence was not only necessary, but it allowed you to get to your “destination”.
Fast forward to today, and your current health/mobility challenges, it would make sense that persistence is a valuable quality.
But Houston, we have a little problem. If you feel “frustrated” more often than not, “persistence” could be the problem.
You see, persistence is necessary and good. Perseverance, a close cousin, is also extremely valuable. Endure setbacks. Be adaptable and pivot when “problems” arise. Maintain a steadfast resolve to achieve your goal. All qualities of a “successful” person.
But at what cost? And, what if I told you there is a chance you won’t achieve your goal? Would the persisting have been worth it? Would the “overwhelm”, “frustration”, and potential “disappointment” have been worth it?
I don’t present this question to discourage you in any way from continuing on the path. And I am not saying your won’t achieve your goal. But what if…..
If you get a little sinking feeling in your heart, there is a solution that James Clear perfectly articulates.
Persist, yes. This will keep you moving toward your goal when the going gets tough.
And
Maintain an open-mind regarding what success looks like.
Although uncomfortable, could you be content walking with a slight “limp”?
Could you imagine a future you that is more active, eating “healthier”, and feeling more energy and not be a size 4?
Could you imagine a future of going to theme parks and traveling to see your family if it meant you occasionally needed to use a wheelchair?
Could you feel a sense of accomplishment if you walked a 5k instead of jogging a half marathon?
Could you be content living in a lower income neighborhood, driving a 10 year old car, and wearing “off brand” clothes for the rest of your life?
Persistence is necessary. And there is something that feels really good about knowing you persevered through obstacles and set backs to achieve your goals.
But equally important, is finding moments of joy throughout the process.
And maybe, just maybe, the outcome God has in store for you is way better than you could have ever imagined.
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Persistence is tough when you are four years into this journey and you realize that you are forever changed. Your steps are a daily battle, yes they are better- you are pretty sure footed, but distances seem elusive. Your arm can pull, but it struggles to push. Your speech still slurs when you are tired.
What makes persistence alluring? At the end of the day I think it’s perspective…. I actively choose gratitude and praise for what I can do, the help that I do receive and God’s power and glory in ‘surround sound.’
Are my efforts perfect? Goodness no! I miss the mark regularly, complete with stale potato chip – flat Dr.Pepper pity moments. But persistence helps to start again. Mile Monday!, Tuesday Pool Day….. the joy moves forward. Thanks for the videos… looking forward to this ’walking one!’
Oh my gosh Jean, this is so helpful. You are able to explain this from a first person perscpective that I could not. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience and how you maintain hope in this difficult time. Keep going! And stay persistent!
“Even if” … has been my go to statement instead of “what if?”
It allows me to live in peace over fear.
Thank you for your musings Tara and constant help with our struggles.
Yes Vickie! Even if…. is more fitting. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you Home run article The article always help.
Thank you
Glad you enjoyed it Donald!